HOW TO LET GO OF THE PAST
STOP LETTING PAINFUL MEMORIES CONTROL YOUR PRESENT – AND FUTURE
Posted by: Team Tony
Why do we hold on to the past? Why is it so difficult to let go of the experiences that have caused us pain and suffering?
For many of us, we get stuck in the past because of our need for certainty. Certainty is one of the six basic human needs and is fundamentally about survival. We all need to feel certain that we can avoid pain and, ideally, find some comfort in our lives. Continuous pain means continuous damage, and that eventually leads to our demise. It’s frightening to step into the unknown. It’s difficult to be vulnerable. And it can be overwhelmingly uncomfortable to have that sense of uncertainty about what lies ahead. So we hang on to the past – because even if it’s steeped in pain, it’s what we are familiar with and what we feel certain about.
The other reason it’s so difficult to let go of the past has to do with the way...